to Blog or not to Blog

Since I joined FB back in 2009 and I have become much more social via social networking. Before that I was a social drinker and inebriated philosopher. It helped that my kids became teenagers and did not need to be supervised as closely as they had been for their more formative years. Luckily my wife was able to be a stay at home mom and give them the support and nurturing that all children deserve. She is an extremely charismatic, intelligent and beautiful Korean woman that I met in MD back in 92 and we have been married for 19.5 years. Our kids are 18 or soon to be 19 yr old boy and 17 yr old girl.

Sharing my views and opinions was limited to friends and immediate family. Now I get to share them with basically the whole world. I have had the opportunity to travel extensively throughout the US as well as overseas to Italy, Aruba, Curacao, Chile, South Korea and Japan. Traveling like that affords one the opportunity to really experience cultures outside of their own and this greatly impacts one’s views on the world as a whole as well as the area they live in. Granted, none of the places I have traveled to are truly considered third world but poverty was more evident than I am used to in the areas I have lived or traveled to in the US. Also, all of the countries have been predominantly Protestant or Buddhist so I have not personally experienced Islamic culture or Hindu areas which according to most media sources are extremely harsh regions socioeconomically speaking. 

My life and experiences have influenced my perspective and this is why I try to share my opinion and listen to the opinions of others. It is the “pebble in the pond” thing for me. You never know how what you say or do will affect others but it is interesting to observe nonetheless. I have never really followed the popular route in life and I choose not to go with the flow and sometimes I can be very boisterous with my views to the point it appears that I do not respect the views of others but it is not so. Respecting the views of others does not mean that I would not rather influence them to agree with my own views which can lead to rather energetic debates. I have won some and I have lost some, it is a learning experience as a whole. I do not know everything about anything but I know something about a lot of things so I am receptive to well reasoned arguments. For the record, most arguments with my wife have been won by my wife. In fact according to her I have never won an argument with her, lol. Whatever… I love her all the same and have learned a lot about critical thinking from her over the years. She is truly a brilliant woman.

The point of this particular blog started out as a discussion about whether I should blog or not. I have not had any feedback regarding my entries so I do not know if this is anything more than a digital journal. I would like to have others read and comment on my entries so as to expand my own horizons through articulate conversation rather than heated debates. If you are reading this please comment and let me know if my discussions are worthy of your time or if they are not. I already have outlets such as FB and Twitter (recently joined). Those outlets may be sufficient, I am undecided.

Family Disparity

Ok, so this past holiday season has left yet another bad taste in my mouth. Why do individual differences among family members have to explode around this time of year? My family in particular has some pretty extreme individual differences ranging from geographical location to religious beliefs. I live in GA with my wife, kids, and younger sister. Since my grandmother on my mom’s side passed away in 01 and my great grandmother on my dads side passed the extended family unit has all but fell apart. Why does it seem that the only commonality that we had was our elder grandparent. I do not go to either MS or FL to visit with my extended family any more. Back when I was in the military I went to visit every time I took leave (aka vacation). I have changed quite a bit since then of course but they are still my family and I still love them, just cannot seem to find the time or the money to make the trip. Anyway, back to the individual differences. I do not want to drop names or get too personal in this forum so I will state the differences without stating the names. Geographical… MS, FL, GA. Religious… Pentecostal, non-denominational, agnostic, Presbyterian, Baptist, (some of which border on fanatical in my personal opinion-not just baptist but all of them).Relationships… multiple divorcees, bi-sexual, straight, married, single. Political…not completely sure but I am convinced that their political views are a direct result of their religious views so I will not expand on this. So, you get my point… we all have our differences and make our choices in our daily lives based on these differences. I just want to know why these differences cannot be accepted for what they are and allow family to convene without vocal explosions or verbal assaults regarding these differences. I want my family to get along, but certain people within the family circle choose to attack other members of the family because of their differences. I am at a place in my life (35 yrs old) where I choose to appreciate everyone for their differences and ask only to be accepted for mine. I do not ask or insist that anyone be like me, I do not think the world could handle it lol. I am trying to appreciate everyday for what it is and not really caring about tomorrow or the supposed afterlife that so many seem to be aiming for, regardless of whether there is any physical proof of its existence. As you can see from this and previous posts I am the agnostic one in my family, which is the root of many of the problems in at least one side of my family. My choice, I am responsible for that decision and the consequences that may or may not be associated with it and all others related to it. I am who I am, if you do not like me fine, I just do not care. I do not need people in my life that refu

Insanity of driving in GA around holidays

So I drove to South GA on I-75 today. Did not expect to see so much traffic on the road the day after Christmas. I wish more people understood the fine art of driving. Why is it when the masses get together, they get stupid! The left lane is for passing, if you are not driving faster than the cars to your right then you should not be in the passing lane. If you are towing an RV, boat, trailer of any sort, then you should not be in the left lane, I do not care how many axles you have! When the people in the lane are leaving some open space between themselves and the car in front of them that is also not going anywhere due to the surrounding cars, then you should not think yourself so effing special that you should hurry up along side and in front of them to make them shuffle back some more. I like to drive fast and keep moving faster than the cars around me. It reduces the risk of getting entangled in some form of car accident with them. I do not feel that it is reckless. Anyway, be considerate, you are not the only person on the damn road. If everyone would leave adequate space between themselves and the car in front of them the slinky effect would not occur. I hate parking lot scenarios in the damn highway. If you have to mess with something other than the steering wheel or the turn signal, and it distracts you from the road, then you should voluntarily move to the right to avoid interrupting the flow of traffic in the lane that you are or hopefully were occupying. Have a nice day!

Brief analysis of christmas

Ok, first things first. I am new to this blogging thing. I am a bit excited about it though, because I can get on my soap box and talk about things that are important to me. And I get to debate those things with people who might agree or disagree with me. I like it and am glad that my friend has introduced me to this forum. So, I hope that if you are reading this you will at the very least appreciate my point of view, regardless of whether you agree or disagree with my particular perspective on things. So here goes:

Christmas…. it is a Protestant/Catholic observation of the birth of Jesus Christ. So why is it not on Jesus’ birthday or at least near the one that the historians have found it to be. Most biblical scholars and preachers readily admit that they know Christ was not born on December 25th. However, they claim that this day is as good as any other to celebrate the birth of Jesus, despite the fact that it was originally a pagan celebration called Saturnalia which commemorated the birth of the sun god.
DEUTERONOMY 12:28 “Observe and obey all these words which I command you, that it may go well with you and your children after you forever, when you do what is good and right in the sight of the LORD your God. 29 When the LORD your God cuts off from before you the nations which you go to dispossess, and you displace them and dwell in their land, 30 take heed to yourself that you are not ensnared to follow them, after they are destroyed from before you, and that you do not inquire after their gods, saying, ‘How did these nations serve their gods? I also will do likewise.’ 31 “You shall not worship the LORD your God in that way; for every abomination to the LORD which He hates they have done to their gods; for they burn even their sons and daughters in the fire to their gods. 32 Whatever I command you, be careful to observe it; you shall not add to it nor take away from it. (NKJV
I do not consider myself to be a religious person and definitely not a person that goes to a church. I used to be both, started out as a young child in a Methodist church, then later a Baptist (southern) and at some point during my high school years, non-denominational. There are several periods in my life where I was what I consider to be a pretty spiritual person. I now look back on those times and feel that I was falsely establishing a pretense of spirituality, meaning that I was faking it and doing it for selfish reasons, usually to impress a girl or to please my mother, or to feel like I was part of the group of people that I was, for the most part being forced to socialize with. I have in recent (the last 3-4) years decided that I do not possess what Christians refer to as “faith”. This is a severe hindrance when it comes to worshiping and believing in a deity that for all practical purposes is not present in our lives. Those that do have “faith” and feel that they have to give credit to God, Jesus, Mary etc, for everything that happens in their daily lives would tend to disagree. I do not feel that I can give credit to or blame a God for every little thing in my life. I think that I make my own destiny: and decisions that I make, the way that I interact with other people, my environment and upbringing influence my life and where it leads me. I do know that I do not know much in the greater scheme of things and therefore can not say with any real conviction that there is no God or that there is a God. This is where “faith” normally comes into play and as I stated before, I do not have “faith” in the established doctrines of Christianity or the words written by man in the book called the “Bible”. I believe that if God exists he is extremely disappointed in his creation called “Man”. I do not mean this in a sexist way I mean it in a general species hu-man way to include women. I believe that it is possible that there is a God, but I do not feel that any of the evidence presented by the Church is sufficient to remove the doubt in my mind or my heart so to speak. Where is God, where are the miracles that supposedly occur in the presence of God? Ok, I am done for now. Time to step off of my soap box and enjoy some valuable family time on this day called Christmas.